tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2998392453589309507.post3092969537920543628..comments2024-03-22T21:12:45.711-07:00Comments on Mom, the Intern: When relationships go awry, Facebook-style.Jenna Footehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06053037054553243481noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2998392453589309507.post-42911287987171969092011-06-27T20:08:27.925-07:002011-06-27T20:08:27.925-07:00@TBJ, I completely understand. I don't know wh...@TBJ, I completely understand. I don't know who you are (I don't think!) and this post was not referring to anyone specifically, so I hope I didn't offend you. I'm glad you responded because this has happened to several of my "friends" (more like acquaintances) on Facebook and I was at a loss as to what was appropriate for me to do in the situation. I know a lot of people have wondered the same things.<br /><br />I don't condemn public proclamations of love at all. I'm not trying to argue for or against anything. Also, I don't know what I'd do in a similar situation; that has to be incredibly painful. But thanks for adding your perspective. I was hoping someone who'd been there, done that would step forward and enlighten us all!Jennahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10342495524685548162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2998392453589309507.post-19823770284031063482011-06-27T17:46:27.991-07:002011-06-27T17:46:27.991-07:00I think we all know a couple people who post uncom...I think we all know a couple people who post uncomfortable, personal things on Facebook. I agree that it shouldn't be done. Nobody wants to read play-by-play status updates of the latest fight between husband and wife (and yes, I've seen it). However, I am one of those people who had an awkward relationship status change. If you think it's awkward for YOU (and I know it is), it's ten times more awkward for victims. I know you'll probably say something along the lines of "Well, don't post it!", but doesn't EVERYONE want to shout on the mountain tops when they're crazy in love? I didn't plan on my relationship ending badly, probably as much as so-and-so didn't think her marriage would end in shambles. My point is, I personally would have preferred that if you want to know, ASK. I would've had no problem telling you, as long as you do it tactfully, and not for the purpose to embarrass or point fingers. I'd rather you ask, than whisper in corners, speculating. However, I can only speak for myself. But in my opinion, the straightforward approach is the best. Don't add insult to injury by adding idle gossip to theTJBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04152313534714030829noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2998392453589309507.post-77227303375658859542011-06-27T17:35:38.969-07:002011-06-27T17:35:38.969-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.TJBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04152313534714030829noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2998392453589309507.post-68027283595884790962011-06-23T18:21:45.023-07:002011-06-23T18:21:45.023-07:00I'm all about being up front and honest. I mea...I'm all about being up front and honest. I mean, if they're going to post stuff on FB, then they have to figure it's free game. But I do think its crazy when people have out right battles on FB. Like this girl I know and her mom totally going on and on about each other on their walls. And of course I can't stop reading the threads and peering into their lives (I know, I'm terrible), when I just think...call each other! Message each other privately! Don't air your dirty laundry in the open. But whatever... So honestly, I think do people ask for it.Kendrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17076949306429728667noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2998392453589309507.post-59145735695102281412011-06-22T07:16:17.374-07:002011-06-22T07:16:17.374-07:00Great post! I laughed and your AWWWWCKWERD! was p...Great post! I laughed and your AWWWWCKWERD! was perfect. FB is fun, but to answer your question "How do YOU handle it?", I deleted my FB. No drama involved, no warning people, no specific reason, just the feeling I knew it was time to step away from being so voyeuristically involved in other peoples lives.<br /><br />I did have two incidences, one was a friend getting divorced and the same friend messaged me about some personal business of mine she'd been privy too. In both instances we came clean about what we knew and just basically assured each other we were kosher and wished each other best. No awkwardness.Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01216580106264628759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2998392453589309507.post-52878388288335971882011-06-22T03:18:07.049-07:002011-06-22T03:18:07.049-07:00Finally, someone said it! haha
I'm always sor...Finally, someone said it! haha<br /><br />I'm always sort of in awe when married couples publicly fight and get divorced all over facebook. I would never post something like that... my grandma is on facebook for goodness sakes! lol! But I do admit I get really curious when I see a relationship status change. I mind my business and don't ever ask. If happen to run into them (which never happens, because I live in Germany) I would just say hi and it's nice to see them. I'm actually a really good awkward-moment aversionist. :o)Brittneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12745911419036502099noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2998392453589309507.post-2261485435367269822011-06-21T20:32:32.433-07:002011-06-21T20:32:32.433-07:00I just asked my husband and he says that when he r...I just asked my husband and he says that when he run into them, he's way past all the updates on fb and picks up right there.<br />I on the other hand I straight up ask, via facebook message, not their wall of course.-Special Mothertivity-https://www.blogger.com/profile/18203617582584741409noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2998392453589309507.post-90531035147300504792011-06-21T19:53:28.024-07:002011-06-21T19:53:28.024-07:00Have you seen the movie "Catfish?" That ...Have you seen the movie "Catfish?" That and a divorce is why Kevin decided to delete his facebook account. Honestly, I can't blame him.<br /><br />A friend of mine from an old job got engaged after learning she was expecting :) Whoops! She then started receiving mean messages from an ex boyfriend. She and her fiances decided to delete their profiles after that.<br /><br />I can often determine what happened and I shudder at the people who think it's wise to air dirty laundry in the form of cryptic or sometimes outright cruel status updates.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2998392453589309507.post-72034787121484668962011-06-21T18:16:37.155-07:002011-06-21T18:16:37.155-07:00One time I ran into the father of a high school fr...One time I ran into the father of a high school friend of mine at a restaurant. I had not seen or spoken to him, or my friend, in years. As we were talking, he asked me how my parents were doing. I can’t explain why I said the following, but I kind of joked about them having gotten super old and said, “They’re both dead.” I then said, “I’m kidding,” and I told him what my parents had been up to lately. After talking about them, my friend’s dad then said, “You know my wife passed away a few years ago?” I felt terrible and said, “No, I’m so sorry. And I’m sorry about what I just said,” while simultaneously wanting to run out into traffic and be hit by a car. But he said, “That’s okay,” and told me I shouldn’t feel bad about what I said.<br /><br />This is a pretty good example of how FB could’ve come in handy, had I read about this on my friend’s FB page, or possibly found out through another FB friend.Samanthahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05323562610621143140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2998392453589309507.post-78695592584080728502011-06-21T16:12:48.823-07:002011-06-21T16:12:48.823-07:00Hahaha I LOVED this Jenna! So spot on!
I'm on...Hahaha I LOVED this Jenna! So spot on!<br /><br />I'm one of those people that keeps things pretty private. I want people to be able to see how I'm doing, but not every detail every second of the day.<br /><br />People I'm close to (in real life) get to know the details :)Chelsey Oliver:https://www.blogger.com/profile/10525946894725550070noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2998392453589309507.post-76085111229304217532011-06-21T14:59:23.119-07:002011-06-21T14:59:23.119-07:00Okay, this was HILARIOUS! LOVE IT! :) Thanks for t...Okay, this was HILARIOUS! LOVE IT! :) Thanks for the smile Jenna!Marlahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18334729261980997232noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2998392453589309507.post-49071137117956577902011-06-21T14:31:51.287-07:002011-06-21T14:31:51.287-07:00What a great post!!! LOVE IT!!!
ParkerWhat a great post!!! LOVE IT!!!<br /><br />ParkerAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2998392453589309507.post-54887751040785218372011-06-21T14:29:29.007-07:002011-06-21T14:29:29.007-07:00I sit and wonder quietly what happened until i fin...I sit and wonder quietly what happened until i find someone who isnt afraid to ask or tip toe around the question and ask out right, lol. But facebook is funny that way. Makes you sit and wonder sometimes.Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06109441243284063329noreply@blogger.com